A letter from a fellow Pauser gave me pause, until I realized we may be looking at dieting the wrong way.
Here's what I wish: I wish we all (and society!) would collectively understand and accept that our bodies at 50 and beyond are not SUPPOSED to look like they did in our 20s and 30s and 40s. I really think we have so much work to do yet on this issue. Weight gain during the menopausal transition is a near universal experience, related to the shift in our hormones and their effect on our muscles and metabolism. I refuse to accept that the answer is to "eat less," especially if I'm hungry or if I want to eat is something that brings joy & value to my life. I think the better answer is learning to love and live in our changing bodies.